By Jaq Kende
Friendships are an important piece of connection in every person’s life. What can be tricky, especially for kids, is knowing what to do when friendships change. As people grow and find their own interests and personality, friendships may strengthen, drift apart, or take on new forms. While these changes can be difficult, they are also a normal part of development.
When a child experiences friendship changes, one of the most helpful things that parents can do is to listen without trying to solve the problem. Validating statements like “that sounds really hard” can help kids feel supported and understood.
It can also be helpful to remind children that while they can’t change others choices, they can control their response. Encouraging healthy coping skills, flexible thinking, and opportunities to build new friendships can help children build confidence and an understanding that friendships do not define their worth.
While friendship changes are normal, parents should keep an eye out for signs that their child may need additional support. Some signs include persistent sadness, avoiding school, high anxiety, and bullying. In these situations, speaking with a mental health professional can help children continue to develop skills for navigating social challenges in a healthy way.
Friendship changes are never easy, but they can lead to valuable learning experiences. With patience, encouragement, and support from trusted adults, children can build resilience and confidence to create meaningful friendships throughout their lives.
